Dear Reader, Are you familiar with that disappointing feeling of writing the same goals year after year and wondering why nothing materialises? You start the year off strong, but by December, you have a list of things you have started, but nothing you have completed. If this is you, I want you to stop calling yourself “lazy” or “confused”. You’re not! The issue is that no one taught you how to match your goals to your season, so they stay relevant, fresh and top of mind enough for you to...
27 days ago • 2 min read
Dear Reader, There is a specific kind of challenge that is common to many high achievers, which is being successful at something that is slowly eating you up. Maybe you have gotten everything you once dreamed about. But somewhere along the way, the thing you built started breaking you down into someone you no longer recognize, and instead of walking away, you stay because you have invested too much to walk away now. We all love a good perseverance story. We celebrate the person who never...
about 1 month ago • 1 min read
Dear Reader, Have you ever experienced that feeling that something in your life isn’t fitting right anymore? Maybe you feel like days are moving along, but you’re not making progress in a way that feels right. You could even be getting lots of commendation and recognition, but deep down, you don’t feel as excited as you should (others even seem more excited about your life than you are). If you’ve ever caught yourself just “going through the motions,” or “living on autopilot,” that void is...
about 2 months ago • 1 min read
Dear Reader, Can you remember the last time you cried in your car over spilled coffee, or the time you sent an email with a tone so sharp you had to send a follow-up apology? Afterward, you thought: "What is wrong with me? This isn't who I am." If this happened recently, I'm here to inform you that your distress tolerance tank is empty. Dr. Marsha Linehan, creator of Dialectical Behavioural Therapy, defines distress tolerance as your capacity to manage emotional turbulence without becoming...
2 months ago • 1 min read
Dear Reader, It’s easy to get caught up in the cycle of tasks, checking off to-do lists, chasing goals, awards, and results... all while trying to keep overwhelm, anxiety, and even depression at bay. Eventually what happens is that we forget the power of dreaming. But we need both. THE STRATEGY and THE VISION. And not the kind of vision that’s written in planners or project-managed on spreadsheets, or cut and pasted on vision boards... but the kind that starts deep inside, where faith,...
3 months ago • 2 min read
Dear Reader, I didn’t know exactly what to expect, but I got more than I bargained for on Monday at the first co-working session! It was so heartwarming to see what the ladies accomplished in just one short hour (testimonials shared with permission). Family documents were finally completed! Event agendas and operations were drafted! Business structure… check! Others did some: ➡️ Decluttering ➡️ Networking planning ➡️ Job and skill acquisition research ➡️ Writing chapters of a book ➡️ Reading...
3 months ago • 1 min read
Dear Reader, As humans, we are naturally goal-directed beings. We like to set intentions, make plans, and follow them through. Especially when the goals are aligned with our core values and dreams... there is a natural pull towards getting these things done. The problem is, as humans we also put things off because they are difficult and uncomfortable. We can be perfectionistic as well, we overthink things, and we are easily overwhelmed and overstimulated. Unfortunately, this eventually leads...
3 months ago • 1 min read
Dear Reader, One of my goals this year has been to build my personal brand. I wanted to create something beyond my mental health practice, so I can serve in ways that aren’t limited to my work as a mental health therapist. To help me grow in that direction, I joined a community called Show Up Circle, led by Tolu Michaels. It’s a space where members are all committed to building our personal brands with intention. In September, we entered what’s called a Content Sprint which is a focused push...
4 months ago • 1 min read
Dear Reader, What if I told you that the one solution you truly need to overcome decision fatigue, feeling overwhelmed, not knowing what to do, self-doubt, stalling on taking action etc... isn't another strategy but simply REST? Did that surprise you? As someone who is an ambitious go getter... I can bet the dollar on my desk that it did. It can feel frustrating when you have goals and dreams, but your energy, your creativity, your capacity and productivity just seem to slow down. It’s even...
4 months ago • 2 min read