“I’m tired. And I’m tired of being tired!” This is one of the most common things I hear in my therapy practice. Sometimes my clients can’t even find the right words. They’ll say, “I feel… I don’t even know how I feel.” And then I’ll gently offer:“Tired?” And they respond, “Yeeesss! Exactly.” There are many reasons for tiredness, especially the type that some of my clients may even describe as weariness. It could be physical, emotional, spiritual... and as a mental health therapist, I look...
about 1 month ago • 1 min read
Dear Reader, I remember the first time I told a client that I had struggled to figure out a sleep routine with both of my kids. She was a new mother, and she was EXHAUSTED. She had tried everything to get her son to sleep. The whole experience was draining her. It was affecting her confidence, and it was taking a toll on her mental health. In one of our sessions, I could tell she was discouraged and overwhelmed. So I decided to share a bit of my own story. I told her how I struggled to sleep...
about 2 months ago • 2 min read
Dear Reader, April was a full month for me. I travelled quite a bit... some for fun, joyful reasons and others for more difficult ones. But one of the highlights was celebrating my Dad’s 70th birthday with my family! For the first time, all three generations - my parents, my three siblings, spouses, and grandkids - were in the same place. It was truly special. As a family, one of the conversations we always find ourselves returning to is the topic of PARENTING. My husband and I love talking...
2 months ago • 2 min read
A Bi-Weekly Newsletter Imagine this: It's 6AM and you're sitting, pen and journal in hand, struggling hard, trying to think of something to be grateful for. I've been there. Several months ago, I made it a habit to reflect on the past 24 hours and write down 3 specific things I was grateful for. And that morning I was STRUGGLING because the day hadn't ended well. Then suddenly, I remembered something huge! I had received an unexpected bonus payment that doubled my income that month. When I...
7 months ago • 1 min read
A Bi-Weekly Newsletter For High-Performing Women Whenever someone comes into my office expressing sadness and frustration over a conflict, one of the first questions I ask is "Have you talked to them (the other party) about it?" This was the story of one of my clients who had just turned 35. \ She was disappointed that her work bestie had not made a big deal about her birthday, because "if it was her birthday, I would have gone all out for her." She was sad and began to disconnect from her...
8 months ago • 1 min read
A Bi-Weekly Newsletter For High-Performing Women Consistency is one of those words you hear often, especially if you're a woman who is working on improving yourself. We know consistency is important, the problem is it's such a vague term that many of us don't really know how to BE consistent. (By the way, I put "Communication" and "Understanding" in this category of Vague But Important Terms aka VBITs.) The good news is that there is a science to consistency, and like many of these VBITs,...
9 months ago • 2 min read
A Bi-Weekly Newsletter For High-Performing Women Today one of my clients told me she had thought about reaching out to my office for a session EIGHT WEEKS ago but didn't! Why? Because she had graduated from Cognitive Behavioural Therapy (CBT) with me and felt ashamed that she "still needed someone to talk to" despite all the tools and skills she had learned. To be clear, she is in a great place now. She is a successful licensed professional and businesswoman who has overcome a lot of trauma...
9 months ago • 2 min read
A Bi-Weekly Newsletter For High-Performing Women A few weeks ago, one of my friends hosted a couples' paint night at her house, and although I was excited for the food and a chance to meet new people, I had very low expectations of the art I would produce. The instructions were to sit across from your spouse and paint their bust (face, neck, and top part of their chest)... all in about 30 minutes. In my head, I was laughing out loud... "This is going to be interesting", I thought. I told...
10 months ago • 2 min read
It's Thursday, and the beginning of a long weekend... but this is not just any long weekend. This weekend is one you have been looking forward to for MONTHS! It's the weekend of a long-awaited getaway... A retreat you have planned with a handful of your closest friends. They are all working moms just like you in desperate need of a break from the busy life of a high-performing woman juggling multiple responsibilities. You think excitedly, "The girls' trip has finally made it out of the group...
10 months ago • 2 min read