Dear Reader, A question came up this week in The Momentum Room (a 12 week space I facilitate to help women make progress on their goals). It was a simple, yet thoughtful and profound question: "How do you make decisions?" A couple of us shared our approach to decision-making (e.g. a Pros and Cons list), and I also shared on one of my favourite topics: Knowing your Core (or Personal) Values. Knowing your core values is an essential part of self-awareness. And the importance of self-awareness...
14 days ago • 1 min read
Dear Reader, Because of how ambitious and high-functioning you are, it's very easy to get stuck in thinking that your problems aren’t ‘real’ enough, or that if you just prayed harder or talked to one more friend, the feeling would disappear. In psychology, we call this "minimizing" and it's very common amongst high-achievers. This thinking trap is common in high-achievers and is one of the reasons you find it hard to ask for help (because asking would be admitting that you need it in the...
28 days ago • 2 min read
Dear Reader, When was the last time you thought about your younger self? In a couple of months I'll be opening the doors of KAMY Counselling Services in Alberta 🎉, and the process of applying for a license to practice in each province requires a thorough review of my degrees, credentials, and 16-year work history. Going down memory lane did something very interesting... it reminded me of different versions of my past self. I thought about the ER/ICU doctor version (2013-2022) I thought about...
2 months ago • 1 min read
Dear Reader, If you’ve ever said, “I say my affirmations, but nothing is changing,” this letter is for you. We often talk about affirmations as if they are magic words, as if repeating the same words enough times will eventually force our reality to shift. For your words to lead real change in your life, they need a measure of substance to stick to. Here are three reasons why your affirmations aren’t working: 1. You’re saying words your heart does not believe It’s possible to say “I am...
3 months ago • 2 min read
Dear Reader, As we settle into the rhythm of 2026, I’ve been reflecting on goal setting and intentionality. So often, we focus on the what (the big dreams, the finished products) without grounding ourselves in the how and the why.To build a plan that actually sticks, you need more than an idea. Here are three essential shifts to move from hoping for results to actually creating them. Start With Your DestinationYou have to be clear about where you’re going. I’m a big believer in keeping goals...
4 months ago • 1 min read
Dear Reader, Jetlag Low social battery Long hours at a conference Coming down from sugar overload from too much puff-puff and Chapman over the holidays... 🤦🏾♀️ All of these have been contributing to a sluggish feeling I’ve been experiencing lately. And with all the balls I’m currently juggling, I’ve been encouraging myself to REST. Rest has been a common word in my household lately, that even my kids are beginning to say “Mommy, go and rest.” And believe me, I’m taking their advice very...
4 months ago • 1 min read
Dear Reader, I'm writing to you as my family and I sit waiting to board our flight back to Canada after spending about 2 weeks in Nigeria. We will be arriving in Canada at the end of the day, so Christmas for us already looks and feels very different. We did manage to get our tree up before we left, and managed to get pictures of our daughter putting up the star at the top of the tree. Her and her brother alternate this family tradition every year, and it has been sweet to look back at how...
5 months ago • 1 min read
Dear Reader, Are you familiar with that disappointing feeling of writing the same goals year after year and wondering why nothing materialises? You start the year off strong, but by December, you have a list of things you have started, but nothing you have completed. If this is you, I want you to stop calling yourself “lazy” or “confused”. You’re not! The issue is that no one taught you how to match your goals to your season, so they stay relevant, fresh and top of mind enough for you to...
5 months ago • 2 min read
Dear Reader, There is a specific kind of challenge that is common to many high achievers, which is being successful at something that is slowly eating you up. Maybe you have gotten everything you once dreamed about. But somewhere along the way, the thing you built started breaking you down into someone you no longer recognize, and instead of walking away, you stay because you have invested too much to walk away now. We all love a good perseverance story. We celebrate the person who never...
6 months ago • 1 min read