Dear Reader, If you’ve ever said, “I say my affirmations, but nothing is changing,” this letter is for you. We often talk about affirmations as if they are magic words, as if repeating the same words enough times will eventually force our reality to shift. For your words to lead real change in your life, they need a measure of substance to stick to. Here are three reasons why your affirmations aren’t working: 1. You’re saying words your heart does not believe It’s possible to say “I am...
about 1 month ago • 2 min read
Dear Reader, As we settle into the rhythm of 2026, I’ve been reflecting on goal setting and intentionality. So often, we focus on the what (the big dreams, the finished products) without grounding ourselves in the how and the why.To build a plan that actually sticks, you need more than an idea. Here are three essential shifts to move from hoping for results to actually creating them. Start With Your DestinationYou have to be clear about where you’re going. I’m a big believer in keeping goals...
2 months ago • 1 min read
Dear Reader, Jetlag Low social battery Long hours at a conference Coming down from sugar overload from too much puff-puff and Chapman over the holidays... 🤦🏾♀️ All of these have been contributing to a sluggish feeling I’ve been experiencing lately. And with all the balls I’m currently juggling, I’ve been encouraging myself to REST. Rest has been a common word in my household lately, that even my kids are beginning to say “Mommy, go and rest.” And believe me, I’m taking their advice very...
3 months ago • 1 min read
Dear Reader, I'm writing to you as my family and I sit waiting to board our flight back to Canada after spending about 2 weeks in Nigeria. We will be arriving in Canada at the end of the day, so Christmas for us already looks and feels very different. We did manage to get our tree up before we left, and managed to get pictures of our daughter putting up the star at the top of the tree. Her and her brother alternate this family tradition every year, and it has been sweet to look back at how...
3 months ago • 1 min read
Dear Reader, Are you familiar with that disappointing feeling of writing the same goals year after year and wondering why nothing materialises? You start the year off strong, but by December, you have a list of things you have started, but nothing you have completed. If this is you, I want you to stop calling yourself “lazy” or “confused”. You’re not! The issue is that no one taught you how to match your goals to your season, so they stay relevant, fresh and top of mind enough for you to...
4 months ago • 2 min read
Dear Reader, There is a specific kind of challenge that is common to many high achievers, which is being successful at something that is slowly eating you up. Maybe you have gotten everything you once dreamed about. But somewhere along the way, the thing you built started breaking you down into someone you no longer recognize, and instead of walking away, you stay because you have invested too much to walk away now. We all love a good perseverance story. We celebrate the person who never...
4 months ago • 1 min read
Dear Reader, Have you ever experienced that feeling that something in your life isn’t fitting right anymore? Maybe you feel like days are moving along, but you’re not making progress in a way that feels right. You could even be getting lots of commendation and recognition, but deep down, you don’t feel as excited as you should (others even seem more excited about your life than you are). If you’ve ever caught yourself just “going through the motions,” or “living on autopilot,” that void is...
5 months ago • 1 min read
Dear Reader, Can you remember the last time you cried in your car over spilled coffee, or the time you sent an email with a tone so sharp you had to send a follow-up apology? Afterward, you thought: "What is wrong with me? This isn't who I am." If this happened recently, I'm here to inform you that your distress tolerance tank is empty. Dr. Marsha Linehan, creator of Dialectical Behavioural Therapy, defines distress tolerance as your capacity to manage emotional turbulence without becoming...
5 months ago • 1 min read
Dear Reader, It’s easy to get caught up in the cycle of tasks, checking off to-do lists, chasing goals, awards, and results... all while trying to keep overwhelm, anxiety, and even depression at bay. Eventually what happens is that we forget the power of dreaming. But we need both. THE STRATEGY and THE VISION. And not the kind of vision that’s written in planners or project-managed on spreadsheets, or cut and pasted on vision boards... but the kind that starts deep inside, where faith,...
6 months ago • 2 min read